Believing In Yourself – A Key Component to Attracting The Right Relationship
In order to attract the right person, it is critical to acknowledge and accept your positive and negative qualities. A positive self-image is critical in creating a healthy and loving relationship. The most important part of your life is the essence of your being and how you care, respect, and are responsible for yourself. If you do not love and value yourself, no one in your life will ever provide the love you are seeking. Regarding your life as valuable and important is the definition of a personal belief in self-love.
Every person has an important role to play in life to glorify God. Depending on how willing you are to develop and strengthen your spiritual muscles, you may choose to consider yourself unimportant as a way to avoid living up to this responsibility.
When you feel worthwhile in your personal, social, and work life, you have a healthy self-love. If your parents made you feel loved and respected, you were comfortable in your environment. If you were not raised in such a loving household and were criticized excessively, you probably feel unlovable. This feeling may have extended to school, where you felt rejected by peers or felt you were not able to compete in sports or in the classroom.
When we are growing up, our minds create tapes of the impressions others have of us. For example, I am the oldest of three children. As with many firstborn children, my parents expected a lot from me, not only intellectually but also in my behavior toward others. So, I created a tape of being a responsible person. Because my parents encouraged my intellectual growth through praise, my self-image was positive and my excellent academic grades were a reflection of that belief.
Each time an incident reminds us of one of these positive or negative tapes, we react to the present event from our memories of the first time we experienced that feeling. Sometimes, these disparagements evolve into self-criticism and drag us down until we lose our self-love.
In order to achieve personal transformation it is necessary to examine the reasons you are here and understand the lessons placed in your path for your emotional and spiritual evolvement. It is also essential to become aware of the ways that you sabotage yourself and refuse to understand these lessons.
The sooner you achieve higher awareness to issues that you resist, the sooner you can live in fulfillment of your true purpose. The discovery of who you really are is the most exciting aspect of being alive!
Nancy Pina is author of the top selling relationship book, “The Right Relationship Can Happen.” For details on receiving personalized expert advice from Nancy, please visit her website at http://www.yourtruematch.com.
