Dealing with Shyness
by Nancy Fagan, M.S., ExpertLoveAdvice.com
Shyness is a common byproduct why you see someone you are attracted to.
Unfortunately, if you appear too shy, not only will you come across as less
approachable but also as less attractive. The way to avoid this is to find ways
of calming your body down when your anxiety rises. Below are seven techniques to
try out; they are sure to crush shyness and help meet the partner of your dreams.
Techniques for dealing with shyness:
- Retreat: Leave the situation temporarily until anxiety subsides.
- Talk to another person: Redirect nervousness and conversation to someone you
are not attracted to.
- Move around: Force your body to move. This will get rid of excess energy that
nervousness creates.
- Perform a simple repetitive activity: Distract your attention by focusing on a
task that requires simple, repetitive action (i.e. tapping your foot, squeezing a
ball, chewing gum).
- Do something that requires focused concentration: Focus all of your attention
on a task that demands your full concentration (reading a book, multiplying
numbers in your head).
- Deep breathing: Take slow, deep breaths and exhale slowly. Repeat five times.
- Repeat positive statements. When you catch negative statements creeping into
your thoughts, quickly replace them with positive statements (i.e., Negative
thought= “He/She probably doesn't think I'm pretty/handsome enough.” Positive
statement= “If he/she didn't think I was nice looking, he/she wouldn't be looking
my way.”).
To read more about dealing with nervousness, click here, How to Master
Nervousness: ExpertLoveAdvice.com
Nancy Fagan, M.S., author of “The Complete Idiot's Guide to Romance” and
“Desirable Men: How to Find Them.”
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