Is Your Partner Cheating?
By Jeff Cohen, freelance writer (cohenwriting@aol.com)
We all believe in our hearts that our partners will be faithful. After all, isn’t cheating supposed to be reserved for Hollywood movies? Still, sometimes you find yourself in a relationship where your partner’s behavior becomes suspicious. You don’t have any hard evidence, but something in your gut tells you your partner is up to no good.
You want to confront your partner to get to the truth. Unfortunately, whether you’re right or wrong, problems will arise. If you’re right, then it’s likely the end of your relationship. If you’re wrong, then your partner is upset at you for not trusting them.
Before you call out your partner and have “the talk” consider these ten signs that you may have a cheating partner. None of these signs alone guarantees you’ve found a cheater. However, if more than a few signs sound like your partner, then your hunch could be right.
1) Is your partner showing less interest in sexual activity? It could be stress or lack of sleep, but if your once sexually active partner is suddenly no longer interested in you, it could be a sign they’re getting their stimulation elsewhere.
2) Are plans and date nights getting cancelled last minute? We all get busy and have to cancel on people sometimes, but if your partner is consistently making scheduling changes, it could be a sign they’re juggling one too many love interests.
3) Does your partner guard their cell phone? We all want some privacy, and that includes who we call and when. However, if your partner is overly protective of their recently dialed numbers and caller ID, could they have something to hide?
4) Has your partner ever cheated on you before? Anyone who has dealt with a cheating partner has heard, “it won’t happen again.” Unfortunately, studies show that people who have cheated before are more likely to cheat again in the future.
5) Are you fighting a lot more than usual, and mainly for silly reasons? Do you feel like your partner is picking fights with you lately, or acting overly defensive? This is a common side effect of cheating. Your partner feels guilty about their behavior and takes it out on you to justify their actions.
6) How does your partner introduce you to others? Does your partner readily introduce you as if you’re a couple, or more of a friend? If you’re the only one in the picture, then there’s no reason to play around with how you’re introduced.
7) What do your friends and family believe? If those you love think your partner is acting funny, they may be on to something. As the one in the relationship, you’re often too close to the situation and may miss the obvious signs of cheating.
8) Have you noticed any strange scents, phone numbers, or other clues? It’s not time to play detective, but if you’ve found material evidence of cheating, there’s no reason to overlook it.
9) Has your partner made any new, suspicious friends? If your partner has a new friend and is evasive about the relationship, maybe there’s something to hide.
10) What does your gut tell you? Don’t be afraid to listen to what you feel in your heart. Most people have a sixth sense, so use it and ask yourself whether you believe in your heart your partner is up to no good.
These are not hard and fast rules. But if more than a few of these cheating signs are evident, there’s a good chance something is wrong in your relationship.
Jeff Cohen is the author of the e-book, 30 Minute Guide to Online Dating. It's a must-read for anyone looking to master the art of online dating without wasting hours of valuable time. To learn more about the e-book and purchase a copy, please visit Online Dating eBook.
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