(CBS) For many single women, dating can be difficult and disappointing. But America's therapist, Dr. Phil McGraw, says it doesn't have to be that way.
His new book, "Love Smart: Find the One You Want — Fix The One You Got," Dr. Phil offers advice to get through the dating maze and help find your Mr. Right. He returned to the The Early Show to talk with co-anchor Rene Syler about how to do just that.
In his book, Dr. Phil says that dating is "simply one of the most inefficient, non-productive, haphazard, hit-or-miss ways to try to achieve one of the most important objectives of your entire life."
How so?
"Really, think about it. When you decide 'I want to find a life partner, I want to get out there and make it happen,' nobody has a plan," he says. "So it's like, well, maybe somebody will introduce me to somebody, or maybe I'll just turn the corner and bump into somebody or I'll go to a bunch of clubs and it's loud and smoky and you can't hear. That's just like a meat market where you're just hanging over, people walking by you."
Dr. Phil says you must have a plan where you create what you want.
"That's what 'Love Smart' is all about," he says. "Don't love dumb, love smart. Have a plan and work your plan."
On his show, Dr. Phil acted as a coach for a woman while she was on a date. Here is his advice:
"Take control from the beginning and ask him, 'Where are you from?' " Dr. Phil says into Wendy's ear.
"So where are you from?" Wendy asks her date.
"I live in Redondo Beach, but I moved here 2 1/2 years ago from Chicago," the date replies. "How about yourself?"
Next, Dr. Phil says: "I want you to really spend some time consciously making eye contact with him. It will be absolutely mesmerizing. You're doing great. Look right at him."
As Wendy establishes eye contact, the date says, "We should look at the menu. Are you sold on anything?"
"I can't honestly say I was paying enough attention," Wendy says.
"Say I was paying more attention to you than the menu," prods Dr. Phil.
Janet is a former beauty queen who never thought she would still be single at 37. She admits to being picky and wants to find Mr. Right ... right now. How is Janet's date with a guy who looks like everything she wants?
