Romance face-to-face includes eye contact, undivided attention, saying sweet nothings, spontaneity, gifts, sharing unique activities, attention to detail, attention to aesthetics—beauty, smell, color...bottom line, romance is making the other person feel special by your thoughtfulness, kindness and consideration. It is that little bit extra that shows you care. Romance also dwells in the unexpected, the mysterious...in the sharing of a now moment.
Use the other person’s name periodically throughout your letter. Using the other person’s name is the email equivalent of eye contact. It also lets the other person know that you are talking to them personally, rather than writing a generic message to anyone—or everyone.
Comment on what the other person said in their last email, or in their profile. Commenting on what was previously written, is the email equivalent of listening. It lets the other person know that you heard what they said, or noted what they asked and are now responding appropriately.
Use images to transmit a mood. Send electronic photos of flowers, sunsets, rainbows, shooting stars, the full moon...the things in nature that we consider it romantic to view with one whom we love.
Write poetry, or share a story that had an emotional impact on you. Poetry is often inspired by an experience or feeling that has touched us, which we want to share with someone else. It is like verbal artwork. Stories that evoke feelings are much the same. Open your heart and put your feelings in words.
Share your “someday” dreams. Tell the other person about places you’d like to go, things you’d like to do...and the ways that you see him/her fitting in. “Someday, it would be fun to go to Venice and ride in a gondola....or go to the Northern reaches and sit outside all night to watch for the Northern Lights” Just because you can’t DO romantic things together, doesn’t mean you can’t share romantic ideas or experiences via your email.
