I see it so often. Men who don’t act like men.

It’s no good meeting a woman, and getting along so well she sees you as just a good friend. Guys can be so nice sometimes… however “just good friends” isn’t what you’re going for – is it? She can be friends all she likes with the girls. With you, you’re going to be more than friends, and so whilst it’s helpful to get along, stop being so nice, and be more of a bad-boy. I’ll show you how in a second, before that…

Next time you meet a woman who you really desire, I wonder if you’d like her to see you as a sexual being, somebody who turns her on emotionally, and more importantly, physically.

You can do this by building in physical contact as soon as possible in all your communication with her. Us Brits are so reserved, so unaffectionate, and so by doing this, straight away you’re establishing yourself as a physical person, a sexual person, and you’re also establishing the relationship as a physical one. Now be appropriate here, I don’t want you going out, groping somebody and then saying, “but Tony told me to do it!” A light touch on the arm when she says something funny, guiding her through a doorway, putting your hand on her knee, be creative, establish physical contact early, and do it appropriately.

Make no mistake, every time you touch her, she’ll notice it – big time, and it makes it easier to initiate further contact later.

Now on to being the badboy. Next time you see a girl you like, that is in a group of girls that you like, I want you to do something that runs against all your instincts.

First off, you’ll go up to the group, and completely ignore the one you truly desire. Have fun with the others, play games, tell stories, and get them laughing, whilst completely ignoring her.

One of the great things about this, is you’re building social value amongst her friends which she will associate with you. She’ll also feel more and more left out, so make more and more effort to get your attention. You’re being a badboy, because you’re playing her, but don’t feel guilty, women do it to us all the time, and it’s nice for you to finally have the initiative, isn’t it? Not only that, she’ll be hating this, because as the hottest one out of all her mates, she’s used to loads of attention, not being left out!

But the badboy behaviour doesn’t stop there. Once you’ve built the social value with the other girls, and your target is desperate for you to show her some attention, relent, and focus on her. Once you start getting on well, it’s time for the Badboy Comment.

This is something you say which disses her, which puts her down, in a (seemingly) accidental way, rather than offensive way. You need to get this right, and if you do, she’ll desire you so much more, because she’ll realise you’re no pushover. Whereas all the other guys constantly tell her how great she is, with you she has to work really hard to get your approval.

“Nice hair, but you’re not a real blonde are you…”

Lighthearted, playful, fun, and yet a bit of a diss.

You’d be amazed at the results you get when you start dating like a badboy.

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