The Perfect First Kiss

By Jeff Cohen, freelance writer (cohenwriting@aol.com)

You’ve just gotten through a great date with someone you really like and you think you might want to kiss them for the first time. All the nervous energy in your body is building up as you consider making the move and breaking the physical ice. There are so many facets involved in taking the leap into that first kiss. How do you know when the timing is right and what do you do once it happens? Read on for all the juicy information on the perfect first kiss.

Step One: Make sure that the other person is ready. Ever heard that expression that timing is everything? In this case, it most certainly is. If you move in for the kiss too soon, you could potentially scare the other person off. They might think that you’re being too aggressive too soon. On the other hand, don’t wait too long or they’ll file you away in the dreaded “just friends” category.

Step Two: Be fully present in the moment. When you’re about to kiss someone for the first time, you should be completely focused on that person and your time together. Try not to think about all the other things in your life that may be on your mind. For that moment, don’t worry about the laundry that needs to be done or that report that your boss needs on his desk by Monday morning. Just focus on the fact that you have this great person here who is ready to lock lips with you.

Step Three: Hydrate your lips ahead of time. When the big chance to lean in for the first kiss does arrive, you don’t want to be fiddling around in search of your tube of chapstick or a piece of gum. Nothing kills a romantic moment faster than a detour to find one of those things. Rinse with mouthwash or grab a stick of peppermint gum a few minutes before you plan to lock lips and you should be good to go.

Step Four: Follow the other person’s lead. Research shows that 66% of people turn their heads to the right when kissing. That means that even if you are a lefty, you might still want to try and adapt to the angle of the other person. The same goes for the eyes open or shut policy. If you tend to kiss with your eyes open, but you notice that your partner has their eyes sealed, try and adapt to that. You don’t want to freak them out if they do open their eyes mid-kiss to find you there staring at them.

Step Five: Get excited and into the idea of the first kiss. You only have one first kiss with someone so why waste the chance to make it special? It will be much more memorable if you’ve thought about it and considered how enjoyable it could be. Once it does happen, you can release all the nervous energy and just relax and have fun!

Jeff Cohen is the author of the e-book, 30 Minute Guide to Online Dating. It's a must-read for anyone looking to master the art of online dating without wasting hours of valuable time. To learn more about the e-book and purchase a copy, please visit 30 Minute Guide to Online Dating.